Liberating From Destructive Attachments | Law of Attraction Tutorial

[00:00:02]hello hello today I'm going to be talking about how to liberate yourself from destructive attachments on today's live that is the topic of course this is a manifesting topic but the idea that we're going to focus on here is how to let go of attachments easily because we all understand that when really attached to an outcome it's really really hard to manifest that thing that we want and we have to get into that state of letting go now in today's live I'm going to make the correlation between attachment and addiction and this should be very helpful if you've been following my content for a long period of time you've probably heard me say before that I've dealt with a lot of addictions so I used to be addicted to opioid pain medication I was addicted to methadone I was addicted to percoid I was addicted to hydrocodone I was addicted to cigarettes I was addicted to all kinds of stuff binge drinking and so one thing that I've learned through the law of attraction is that releasing an addiction is the same thing as releasing an attachment and in fact an attachment is a form of addiction and so I'm going to talk about about this and then how you can use these principles of addiction recovery to recover from an attachment and these are things that it can be done actually quite easily okay so I've done addiction recovery the hard way and gone into withdrawal and been depressed and sad and had all kinds of problems and I've done addiction recovery the easy way where I was able to just kind of hop off of a substance without much pain and get on with my life and so I'm going to talk to you guys about what those principles are and how you can apply those to whatever attachment you trying to release and so it could be something like maybe you're really attached to getting a particular job or maybe you're starting a business and you're really attached to getting customers and they're just not coming or maybe you're really attached to your specific person and they keep floating away from you these are all situations that you can use these principles that I'm going to talk about in today's live all right so today I am casting both to YouTube as well as to Instagram hello everybody please go ahead and say hi in the chat like the video real quick all that good stuff um over on YouTube I do have Mary my assistant is moderating today she is Mary 1111 she is back if you see her say hi um thank you for the super thanks or super chat here dealing with criticism I appreciate it appreciate you thank you so much hello Britney hello Manuel hi Carlton hi just a thought hi homeschooling agent hi Eva hello everybody hi everybody over here on Instagram nice to see all of you and yes if you have manifesting questions feel free to go ahead and drop those into the chat because as I'm going along I'm going to go ahead and answer some of those questions all right so I'll be answering questions while I talk about letting go of attachments all right so again the correlation that I'm making today is that letting go of an attachment when you want to manifest something and it's not coming is the same process as letting go of an addiction okay so it's a very important thing to understand now the reason why this is okay is that when we get attached to something whatever it is whether it's a drug or a person or an outcome or a job when we get attached to an outcome what's going on is that we have externalized our happiness that's what's going on okay so you are the person who generates your own happiness okay you are the person that cultivates positive feelings you are the person in charge of your vibration that's you okay you do that but when we get attached to something or we get addicted to something there's a belief that starts to set in that tells us that my happiness lies outside of me okay that's what's going on so for instance if somebody's a addicted to a drug like I was addicted to lots of drugs okay along the lines of going through that process of getting hooked on drugs there is a belief structure that starts to set in that I need the drug to be happy I need the drug to be happy and so when the drug is around I feel good but if you take the drug away I feel bad okay now the same thing will happen when you are addicted to any kind of attachment so let's say that you know you are attached to a particular person you want to manifest a specific person well when the person is around I feel happy but if they go away I can't be happy any anymore if they call I'm happy if they don't call I'm not happy and so there's this process that goes on that you start to believe that your happiness your high vibration is dep dependent on something outside of yourself which is a flawed belief structure because in reality you are the one creating your happiness okay so addictions and attachments function on that same principle now another thing that can make attachments happen that is similar to addiction is that depending on when that thing is around you will feel a sense of Happiness okay so when you become attached to something what's going on is you never quite know when that thing's going to show up in your reality okay so maybe the person calls today but they don't call tomorrow maybe you see some progress towards your business today but tomorrow you don't see it you don't quite know when it's going to work okay and that's because you don't quite know when it's going to show up in your reality and when you don't know exactly when something's going to show up in your reality it can cause you to become more addicted to that thing and this is something that's known in psychology as a variable ratio reinforcement schedule okay so what this means is things are very addictive when we don't know when we're going to get them okay so when we don't know when we're going to find our next drug or when we don't know that she when she's going to call or when we don't know when the sale is going to come that can become very addictive because the person never knows exactly when the reinforcement or the positive feeling is coming this by the way is why gambling is so addictive you never know when you're going to win the hand in poker you never know when that lever that you pull is going to give you the winning slot slot win and so you're chasing a high that you don't know when it's going to come okay and so this is a very important thing to understand which is that the things that you are attached to are are showing up in in in ways that you're not quite sure when they're going to show up okay now maybe you guys have seen this before have you ever seen this before there's something that you're attached to and it shows up sometimes but not other times and it seems to show up when you've forgotten about it or it seems to show up when you're in a good mood it seems to show up when you've kind of moved on with your life okay so maybe he finally calls because you kind of forgot about him or maybe the sale comes because you're in a good mood and the mind starts to believe that this external source is coming in at random times but that's not actually what's going on what's actually going on is you managed your vibration and got into your happy place and then it showed up but you'll start to trick yourself and believe that this external thing is what is making me happy and it's coming in at random times so it's very very addictive okay this is what causes attachment so that's the mechanism that's kind of going on that causes you to become attached to things like healing and illness or making your business work or making money come in you'll start to see some progress but you never know when that progress is going to come and it makes it very very addictive and very easy for you to become attached and obsessed with your dream okay so that's the mechanism and as we're going along I'm going to give you guys some strategies on how do you break these attachments in very very easy ways but I did want to make make sure to explain that thoroughly before I got into the mechanisms that we're going to use all right see some of you joining in here on Instagram hello everybody nice to see you hi Dreamscape homes hi Marcella 7748 hello see lots of people joining hi sexy fit chick Aloha Andrea so sweet to meet you for the first time yay Aloha from Hawaii always wanted to go to Hawaii nice to see you hi everybody and yes if you got questions go ahead and put them into the chat I'll be answering those as I go along oh I got a question here real quick on YouTube from Britney I let go of the person when I flew from the relationship three years ago but letting go of the fear of what that person could do is harder and replays in my head which now makes me worry I'd manifest it I'm not exactly sure what you're asking but what I think that you're saying is I'm I'm afraid of what this person could do so maybe this person this this ex had could retaliate against me or could come back after me or could somehow screw me over or there's something negative that they could do to me and I'm becoming attached to that idea that maybe they can hurt me okay so one thing that can be helpful if you're having a concern that something bad is going to happen is that you want to kind of play it out further in your mind as to how could the bad thing be a good thing okay so like for instance if he let's say he posted some crazy photos of you okay and you're afraid he's gonna do that horrible thing oh my gosh my photos are out there all right well he posts the crazy photos well how might that work out in your favor you know maybe I get discovered or maybe it's a really great photo or maybe it ends up bringing somebody else into my life like I know that sounds kind of crazy and far-fetched but that's the way you want to look at it is if if this if this bad thing happens what good thing might happen after it okay so how might them doing something negative turn into a positive so whenever we're fearful about things we're pushing against them so I'm afraid that they're going to come then they'll come I'm afraid that they're going to text then they'll text so what you want to tell yourself is well if they text it's going to be fine because I'm going to be able to respond differently this time or I'm going to be able to do it better this time okay so you want to play it out further instead of just seeing the bad outcome take that visualization a step further and say okay if the bad thing happens what good things could happen after and allow that to replay so you stop fighting against the stress okay all right guys and as I'm going along on here too I do want to throw this up here just as a quick note before I get going too far I do have courses downloads and a membership program if you guys are at all interested in learning more about the laob attraction from me I've got tons and tons of resources on my website and so on YouTube I went ahead and pinned those into the chat if you 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here that we're focusing on so today what I'm telling you is if you are attached to something you can't stop thinking about something you are addicted to it okay you're addicted to it and the reason that you're addicted to it is because as you kind of get close to that thing you get a dopamine hit okay you get you get a spike in your vibration if they call I'm happy if I start to see my business working I'm happy okay you get that kind of sense that it might be working so you get that sense of elation and then when it doesn't work out or the thing that you Retreats or you're not seeing evidence of it you go into withdrawal okay and then it comes back up a little bit and you're reminded of it you start to get excited and then it goes away and that causes an addictive process which causes the attachment and the attachment occurs you know that you're attached to something when you cannot stop thinking about it okay that's the big issue if you cannot stop ruminating about something you are attached and you are addicted to the outcome all right so let's talk a little bit about strategy now on how you break an addiction and how that relates to Breaking an attachment now for any of you who have gone through an addiction and addiction recovery you may have heard this before and you can let me know in the chat if you're aware of this but generally speaking there are two methods that addicts will take to get off of their substance of choice the first one is the cold turkey method and the second one is the taper method maybe you've heard of these before but cold turkey is when you just stop okay I was drinking today all day I've been drinking for the last two years every day and tomorrow I'm going cold turkey I'm just gonna stop no more drinking okay or I've been popping these pills every day and tomorrow I'm just GNA stop that's the cold turkey method the second method is called the taper method and the taper method is where you taper down so instead of just quitting all of my pills today I'm going to take like 80% of the drugs that I took today take those for a while stabilize and then drop down to 60% and then drop down to 50% and gradually taper down the substance use okay now this is an important thing to notice this is something I did not know early on when I started doing addiction recovery and it's something I want to share with you so if you are addicted to drugs this is this is helpful information a lot of times people think that the cold turkey method is best I'm just going to get rid of this immediately and I'm going to move on with my life and this is similar to what people feel about letting go I'm just not going to think about it and that's just gonna be it I'm gonna be done okay now in theory that's a great idea because if I can just stop today I can move on with my life it's no longer a problem but one thing that you'll notice with cold turkey is that cold turkey is very hard for a lot of people and they need to be under supervision to do it a lot of times they need to be hospitalized for a long period of time and the reason why is that when you go cold turkey you're taking yourself from a negative position and putting yourself even lower and the same is true for attachments okay so when I'm addicted to a drug or thought or whatever else over time my Baseline vibration starts to drop that's what happens okay so I'm externalizing my happiness to this drug or this person or this outcome before I had my attachment I was feeling okay but the more I get attached the more my Baseline vibration starts to drop and that's because I'm externalizing my happiness onto the substance or onto the person or onto the outcome and you will notice that that as you become attached to somebody or an outcome or anything that it is that you want you increasingly become more miserable okay so when somebody goes cold turkey what they do is they get rid of the little idea or the substance that they have externalized their happiness to and now from their lowered vibration they drop even further okay so I was taking my pills taking my pills I got a little Spike from the pill but then I Dro down and I got a little Spike from getting out high and then I dropped down and then I got a little Spike from drop from getting high and I drop down and now I'm down here my vibration is really low and I got to take the medication just to not feel like total crap but when you take the medication away entirely my vibration tanks okay and this sends people into misery it sends them into Agony this is why breakups are so hard by the way okay your relationships you're addicted to your relationship it's getting worse it's getting worse it's getting worse it's getting worse and then it goes away and you bottom out okay and so cold turkey is something that's very challenging for people to do and it often causes them to relapse and the way that we relapse with an attachment is that we become reattached we start chasing after that thing again we give up on moving away from it we try to attach to it again just to get that little hit that little Spike that it's coming towards me so an easier thing that you can do is the taper method okay and the taper method is where you gradually ease off of your addiction so in this case we're talking about an attachment so if you're attached to an outcome like let's say that you want your business to flourish and you're obsessed with the idea of your business flourishing you're staying attached and it's preventing success from really working you can gradually reduce your focus on that subject okay now the beauty of this is that if you give yourself permission to gradually let go to taper let go rather than to cold turkey let go you give yourself a tremendous Advantage which is that you allow yourself to have success every day and when you allow yourself to have success every day you can amplify your success in letting go and let go quicker so let's say that you're attached to an outcome again maybe you're trying to get rid of an illness let's say you've got cancer and you're trying to get rid of cancer and you are obsessed with this idea of I need to get healthy I need to get healthy you're so so attached that you can't seem to let go of the illness it's staying Tethered to your reality well a lot of times in those situations people want to just let go entirely I just want to let go now I need to let go 100% for me to be better but if you give yourself permission to let go gradually what you can start to say to yourself is you know what I went a whole hour without thinking about my illness good for me I tapered down a little bit I want a whole two hours without thinking about that good for me and through the Law of Attraction if you can do that and you can have success with the taper where you're thinking less and less and less and celebrating that the Law of Attraction will amplify whatever is going on in your life whatever you're focused on so if you're focused on I didn't think about it for an hour well now you're going to become a match to not thinking about it even longer now in contrast if you try to go the cold turkey method I got to let go 100% today or I didn't do it right if you happen to think about it throughout the day you're going to feel like you lost I didn't let go I didn't let go I didn't let go and you're not going to be able to let go as easily so ironically the taper method often allows somebody to let go of their attachment much quicker because it allows them to have success in easing into the process of releasing the thought so what we're trying to do with the taper method is give yourself permission if you're some attached to something then I'm going to taper off of this idea if it comes up that's okay but I'm just going to think about it less and when I think about it less and notice that I've been thinking about it less I'm going to celebrate that as a win knowing that as I have that win that win is going to accelerate all right that's a very important thing to focus on if you take yourself and just put yourself straight into cold turkey and say I'm not going to think about this at all I'm done you're probably going to have problems with that okay because you're already kind of bottomed out vibrationally you're already kind of addicted to the idea the idea is going to come up and when it comes up you're going to tell yourself you're losing rather than wow I did a good job reducing my dependency now this does not mean that Letting Go has to take long it's about using the energy and harnessing momentum in your favor so you can let go as quickly as possible so that's my first suggestion is that if there's any outcome that you're attached to don't try to force yourself to let go of it all at once okay allow yourself to take your time with it and give yourself you know credit for what you've done correctly hello Nia James 777 on Instagram trying to manifest money abundance but I think I have blocks how do I clear that okay if you're not sure what your blocks are ask yourself this question why am I not worthy of money why am I not good enough to have abundance okay ask yourself that question and jot down the answers to that question the answers that come up that really hurt or they feel sad or upset or they they really give you kind of a gut punch like you know maybe I'm not good enough or I'm I'm not smart enough or whatever whatever comes up that really feels like it puts a knife in your part that's really the core belief that's interfering with your abundance programming okay or your ability to attract abundance all right so let's say that the thought that comes up that hurts the most is you know people like I'm not worthy of money I'm just not worthy of it I'm not good enough if that comes up and that really hurts the most then what you need to do is flip the belief okay so now instead of I'm not worthy I am worthy of money I am worthy of money knowing what the belief is that you need to program is your First Step okay so the belief that is opposite of the one that hurts the most is the belief you need to program into your mind and there's different ways that you can do that one of course is through repetition um one is through EMDR therapy if you guys have ever heard of that I don't know if any of you have heard of that before that's one that you can do you can do self- hypnosis you can put that idea around you the thing that I like to recommend to people is to look for evidence that supports your new belief so look for evidence how am I worthy of money how am I worthy of it all right but the first thing you need to do is ID identify why do you believe you can't have money okay that's what you first need to focus on is to figure out what the block is o thank you for the Super Chat no one knows thyself thank you so much is your identity self-perception a form of attachment how does one detach from your current identity what techniques help form a new identity more aligned with what you're trying to manifest well that is a curious question I like that that's out there okay self yes okay your identity and self-perception is a form of attachment yes you are you are attached to the who you are this is the person that you believe yourself to be right how does one detach from your current identity well and an new identity more aligned with what you're trying to manifest well one of the big things I think I think what I'm hearing here is maybe not quite what you're saying but what's coming through there's something about myself I don't like I want to reject that part of myself and put in a part of myself that I would like so I can get the things that I want to manifest the path way is not in rejecting the self the pathway is in embracing the self and celebrating that the self that you're in is worthy as it is we don't want to reject the self okay we don't want to say I am bad the the version of this version of me is no good the this version of me cannot get what I want rather we want to look at what we are and validate it this is why I'm a good person this is why who I am is infinitely powerful this is why who I am can have whatever I want you want to empower the self so it's not about rejecting the self because if we reject the self and try to become somebody new what we're saying is I'm not capable of manifesting as I am and as long as that's the dominant belief then we're going to stay stuck where who I am now can't manifest the thing I want who I am now can't manifest the thing I want because I reject myself I hope that makes sense so it's not about forming a new identity it's about celebrating and appreciating and validating the identity that you already have I hope that's helpful candy H is it possible to get off opioids without withdrawal yes I did I didn't about 25 times okay but one time I did and if you guys haven't seen that I I basically one of the things I'm going to talk about later on in this live is I think I'm going to mention and talk about that a little bit um but yeah I was able to I ended up using IBO gain which you guys may or may not have heard of but I had an experience where I was able to get off opioids without withdrawal at all and I credit it to one of the lava traction techniques I'm going to talk about later but yes you don't have to it's awful when you do I know I if you're going through that I'm very sorry it's horrible all right guys again we are talking today about releasing attachments letting go okay and again the the point that I'm making here is that when you're attached to something you're addicted to it you're addicted to it you've started to believe that that thing that's outside of you whether it's a career or a person or money or drugs you believe that that thing is your your ha it's your happiness it's your source of happiness and that in order for you to be happy you have to have that thing but as long as we believe that our happiness is outside of ourselves we we will feel bad we will feel bad because that thing will start to become more and more outside of us we'll start to get further and further away from it you know just like as an addict you know as they believe more and more that they need their drug their drug has less and less of an ability to make them happy they need more and more of it to get the same effect um and just like if you're attached to a person and it's not working out you'll start to feel worse and worse and worse okay so this is what causes us to feel worse and worse and worse are these addictions to this idea that this thing that we're attached to brings us our happiness and so when we talk about recovering from addiction it's the same process as as recovering from an attachment we somehow have to get back to that place of understanding that my happiness is here I'm the one creating my happiness I'm the one raising my vibration it's not the pill it's not the person it's not the money it's not the this that it's me okay so the first thing we talked about was the difference between taper and going cold turkey and I'm trying to make the case that if you are addicted to a thought if you're addicted to an outcome if you're attached to something happening and it's not happening trying to force yourself to go cold turkey and let go all at once is very challenging it's very challenging because you know you're already not feeling great and you're letting go entirely of what you believe to be your happiness and that's going to have you kind of have this drop and if you don't let go totally and you happen to think about it you're going to beat up on yourself so instead give yourself s permission to taper off I'm going to do my best to think about this less and when I notice that I'm thinking about it less I'm going to celebrate wow I I went a whole hour without even thinking about that good for me because what you focus on will enhance through the Law of Attraction you'll build momentum okay and you'll be able to let go quicker if you allow yourself to do it at your own pace now the second thing I want to talk about oh I was doing a little research Just for kicks yesterday to kind of help me form my thoughts about this and this was one thought that I had that is very helpful when you are attached to something or addicted to something something that's very helpful is to remove as much as you can information memories pictures stimulus in your environment that's going to cause you to think about whatever that subject is okay so for instance let's use the example again that let's say that right now you're battling an illness and you really want to manifest a result in your health okay well a lot of times this happens where if someone's really sick or they're going through something they've got like all their prescription medications like lined up right on their nightstand so as soon as they wake up in the morning they see all this evidence that I am sick okay or maybe when you have a cold if you notice this you leave all your crap out where you could see all your cold medication and every time you see it it reminds you oh I'm sick that can cause you to hold on to your attachment so an easy thing to do is just to take those things and put them away so if you're trying to manifest a health outcome putting all your medication in a drawer putting it away and just using it when you needed would be helpful if you're going through like an obsession with a specific person a lot of times people keep things like they keep pictures on their phone they're looking through social media they're constantly allowing themselves to see this particular stimulus which is keeping them attached because whatever you focus on you're going to focus on more okay so one thing that's very helpful is to put that stuff away like I said I was I was looking at some stuff and I ran across a video yesterday oh man this girl she had she was to her credit this happened during covid but she made this video and it was a video it was titled something like I I I recorded the first three months of my breakup or something and she did like a video diary that took her through the first like 90 days of a breakup like her boyfriend had broken up with her and she did not want to be broken up with and she was heartbroken I could not get through this video it was just too depressing but one thing I noticed was like she got through the first month and it was like one month in that she was going through her phone and finally deleting his photos and I'm sitting there thinking girl you should have deleted those on day one day one okay if you're attached to a person and you want to let go of getting your specific person either delete their photos or put them away some where you're not going to see them this a very important thing to understand if you are addicted to a thought it's very easy for you to continue to think a thought and then you're going to keep that active more and more and more you I also had a girlfriend I remember she was going through a breakup this is way back when like I don't know I was like 20 22 she was going through a breakup and we worked at this this bar and the bar used to have a tarot card reader come in and so we' have this tarot card reader come in and my girlfriend was going to that tarot card reader every single day asking about her boyfriend what's going on are we gonna get back together and she's keeping that stimulus active by engaging in activities that keep it active so this is an important thing to understand you're going to go taper off the thought but as much as you possibly can get rid of things that remind you of your attachment okay as much as you can kind of put those things away so that when you're not dealing with it your mind can be free and you can spend more of your air time more of your mental space thinking of things other than your obsession or that thing that you're attached to an outcome with okay so get rid of those things that remind you of the thing that you're attached to now you don't necessarily have to throw things away you can you know lock them up in a box and throw them in the Attic they don't have to be tossed but you don't want to be attending to those things in your environment because it will keep those thoughts active about the thing that you're attached to all right so I hope that that one is helpful as well you know when we're talking about drugs that was a big one if you're getting off of drugs obviously get them all out of the house but also things like the paraphernalia so like there might be things that you're using your drugs with so like maybe you're addicted to marijuana okay you know get rid of your bongs you know put those away like anything that reminds you of the addiction very important to do if you're trying to heal an attachment let go of something release something and step back into that knowing that I don't need this thing to be happy because in order to manifest that's what we have to understand manifesting is all about being happy and complete as you are without this belief that I need this thing over here to be happy once you're happy as you are you become a match to things that reinforce that happiness but it starts with you if you believe it's outside of you it's always going to be outside of you and it's going to get further and further away the more you are attached to it and believe in that idea yeah if you guys have questions about manifesting again please feel free to go ahead and drop those into the chat chat not [Laughter] trat hello Cheryl hello ruie mindful posy I broke up with my boyfriend it was for the best considering he was still married but separated I'm finding it really difficult to be alone I feel empty and invisible like I don't know who who I am yeah that's um very common when you're attached to something and you Chuck it out you can feel like you're not yourself that piece of yourself is gone right so to answer that I might as well just jump into the next the next point because the next point that I have on this subject is exactly what I would recommend for this and this is what I call the power of productivity okay the power of productivity this is about adding things in okay so when you try to release an attachment what you're trying to do is let something go you're trying to let an idea go you're letting an obsession go a and now there's space in your life that used to be filled with that topic or that person or that issue or those thoughts and so what can happen is that you have time on your hands now if you're recovering from an actual like substance abuse addiction this is one of the things that can cause people to relapse because now all of a sudden they have all this free time like you never know how much time you've been killing on your addiction until you finally get free of it it takes up a lot of your time if you're with somebody okay and you're you're distancing yourself from them the space that that person filled is now empty and it can cause those feelings of loneliness and emptiness which don't feel good which drop down that vibration so the next topic that I have here for you guys on releasing an attachment is about the power of productivity so what I mean by that is you want to start adding things into your life okay they don't necessarily have to be super productive productivity is good but anything that you can do that gives you that little jolt of I can do it or look what I accomplished or I just had some fun whatever you can do to add things in will be helpful at reducing your attachment so now you're able to replace some of that time that you would have been thinking about the the ex-boyfriend or you would have been thinking about the business working out or you would have been obsessed about your health working out you're going to replace some of that time with doing things that give you that hit of I can do it things are working out I'm having fun so little things like going around and cleaning up your house or picking up a new hobby taking a new class spending time with people that you haven't spent time with since you've been obsessed with your dream getting back into the mix with those things what that will allow allow you to do is to fill that time with things that actually bring you Joy and the thing about the law of attraction that we always want to remember is that whatever state we're in is reinforcing you know so sitting down with a friend and talking to them and feeling good and feeling connected will amplify those feelings of feeling good and feeling connected so even though you're not getting those from the boyfriend now you're getting those from the friend or from the pet or from this other person over here that you're spending time with all right so this is another great thing whenever you're trying to let go of something you are trying to let go of something but it's going to be a lot easier if you try to get in with something else so don't think about it as just cutting cutting out a thought it's about adding new things to your life all right so if you're feeling that sense of being empty or invisible that's what I would do for you in particular when you say invisible I would be focused on other kinds of relationships right now so spending time with neighbors friends co-workers getting that sense of connection with other relationships would be very helpful because it's going to reinforce that idea of being seen and being connected esma Kelly on Instagram how do we end up in this situation to begin with if we didn't have that attachment at first I'm glad you asked that question because this is something I wanted to talk about that I don't think came out when I was talking okay what causes these attachments one thing that you're going to notice is that you're not going to form an attachment to an outcome with something that you haven't seen any kind of progress or success with so what I mean by that is we all have like these desires and these dreams and things that we want to manifest and some of the things that we want to manifest we haven't even really got anywhere near them okay so like I would love to manifest a private plane but I haven't gone and looked at any of them yet in my mind it's like down the road it's not on my radar right now like it's not something I'm trying to manifest right now and so I'm not attached to that outcome I'm not obsessed with that outcome I don't really care about that outcome but if there is something that you want to manif if you've gotten close to it if you've kind of gotten into resonance with it you will get that Spike so here's what happens when you become a match to something your vibration goes up okay so let's say that you wanted to manifest a relationship that's what you wanted it had never happened before but somehow you managed to get your vibration up pretty high and someone came in you start to associate your high vibration with that person now if that person goes away and you think that the person caused your high vibration then your vibration will go back down okay and then in your mind you start to associate that this person or this thing is what's causing my happiness so that's what's going on you got into resonance you got somewhat close to something maybe you got the job interview you met the person you know you you thought that you were going to get the house like you got close to it but for for whatever reason when it didn't seem like it was working out your mind made the association that your high vibration is attached to that person and so you start to believe that I need this thing to be happy okay so this is the thing to understand is that it's very helpful to recognize and to focus on the idea that I was happy first and then it came in I was happy first and then it came in and I'm telling you guys this moving forward because you want to notice this so you don't develop obsessive attachments in the future as much as possible when things come in that you want always remind yourself oh wow I got into a high vibration and then it showed up because then it's on you and you're taking ownership that I had the high vibration it wasn't the person or the thing or the money that caused the happiness I was happy okay so I hope that that makes sense this is how the attachments develop you got into a high vibration with something and it came in temporarily and you Associated that that thing is what made you happy I hope that makes sense Lush spaces uncore garden design on Instagram says I'm currently struggling with my partner showing interest or it seems to me like it to another girl he just met I feel ignored and not cared about um okay so there's a few things you could do um Just for kicks I mean you can show interest in other people you know we're becoming attached I think that's why you're bringing this up we're becoming attached to the partner and so if the partner is not shining it all on me something must be wrong right but how is this kind of working out for you you know how is this benefiting me well this is teaching me to mind my own vibration this is teaching me not to externalize my happiness onto my boyfriend's attention and here's a really interesting thing about boyfriends okay or or Partners um the more you dial into yourself the more they're going to like you okay the more attention they're going to show you so again the things come to you when you're in the high vibration so if your partner is showing attention elsewhere it's a match to you looking outside of yourself at your partner for your happiness so now he's looking outside of you so what you want to do is you want to dial back into me okay focus on yourself and what I mean by that is focus on the idea that you like who you are focus on things that bring you Joy dial back into putting the attention on your own life and loving your life because what that says is the attention is on me the attention is on me the attention is on me and when that's what you're putting out you'll notice that other people look at you they follow you they want to pay attention to you they want to be around you and that will include your partner okay so what's going on right now is I'm looking outside of myself to my partner to validate me what I want to do instead is validate myself so now he's not looking outside of me he's going to look at me because I'm validating myself I'm going to match up with other people who validate me hope that's helpful TR it Beasley hey Andrea I'm a hypnotherapist you're the I give my clients a lot of manifesting suggestions and you are super influential in that thought I'd say thanks well thank you hypnotherapy oh that's like like a job for me in another lifetime I always thought that's really cool hi gam nice to see you oh I'm all the way up let's go back down peace oh this question dear Andrea do you believe in human design many people are attached to astrology tarot or human design from my point of view there is a lot that fits but it all feels heavier now you know I really relate to that because I love I love astrology and I'm a big astrology nut so it does kind of call into question you know did astrology make you the way you are or did you decide who you are um one thing that I've noticed is helpful when things feel heavy I I do think it's best to kind of put that stuff down because if you feel like life isn't kind of going the way you want people can kind of cling to astrology or tarot or this idea human design this idea that it is the way it is and it can't be changed and through the Law of Attraction things can be changed so you are infinitely capable of changing into different dimensions different versions of yourself you don't necessarily have to be what was put into that chart and that chart or that design could change depending on where you are presently so I I love it I think it's great I do think it's helpful I think it tells us it's great to look at those things as a snapshot for where we are and where we're going but I think it is also equally helpful to remember that our beliefs are what create our reality and they are self-reinforcing so if we're looking at those types of things and we're feeling bad then we're reinforcing a direction we don't want to move in so it's both but again the universe is inclusive not exclusive so all all perspectives work oh oh okay I gotta mention this so we're talking today again about releasing yourself liberating yourself from destructive attachments got another Point here I want to make sure to bring in because when we're talking about releasing an attachment it's also you know it's releasing an addiction you're addicted to the thought you believe that this thing is your source of Happiness so you become addicted to it just like an addict becomes addicted to a drug now here's something else that's super super helpful when it comes to releasing an addiction and or an attachment is to be appreciative appreciative for it being appreciative for the attachment or the addiction sounds incorrect right because we're trying to get rid of it we don't like it we want to reject it but whenever we try to reject something we keep it present in our reality so if I'm saying this is bad I can't have this I can't this drug is bad this alcohol is bad this person is bad we push against things and we keep them present in our reality in a negative way so it will stay there and it will continue to be bad so instead what is helpful is to start to look at how is this particular situation benefiting me and making my life better now in the present moment it may not seem that way like if you're going through a breakup or if you're in a place where thing your business isn't working or your health is deteriorating or any of that it doesn't feel good right but the trick is in looking at how is this serving me in the grand scheme of things so one thing that I like to do is I like to look outward so look out like maybe five months 5 years 15 years look outward and ask yourself this question you know right now I'm in the process of letting go of this attachment how much better is my life going to be in five months five years 15 years as I learn this process of Letting Go how's this going to be better for me how is this this situation right here going to catapult me further into the future okay so like if I'm going through drug withdrawal if I'm going through that kind of process yes it's very painful right now we're letting go um but how is this benefiting me in five years 15 years 10 years how is this going to benefit me down the road what am I learning from this how am I being empowered on a very general level you know whatever you're attached to right now is teaching you how to let go in general it's teaching you how to become a better detacher and a better manifestor so even though this thing that you're attached to right now may seem very painful you getting through it is going to show you how to be a much better manifestor because it's going be easier for you to detach in the future okay so we want to try and validate that what we're going through is not a negative process it's actually a positive process now one thing to reinforce this idea that may be helpful to you is if you look back in your life you've gone through situations like this before you've gone through situations where you've been attached to stuff for and it was painful but once you managed to get over it life improved dramatically this very frequently happens like how many times do you meet somebody who maybe they got divorced and the woman just her life was in shambles but like a year later she like lost 20 pounds and she looks great and she got a new job and she got a new man and she got a new dog and you know her life is just so much better now well that's what that's what happens when you go through a deep attachment and when you finally release it you will bounce back up okay so we want to be validating that during the process you know what okay right now this is might be difficult but this is benefiting me in the long run rather than pushing against it because as long as we say this attachment is wrong I need to get rid of it I need to exclude it we're staying in a lowered vibration where we're fighting against it and whatever we resist persists so the more we can start to step into the idea that this attachment though it may be difficult in the moment is actually serving me and benefiting me now I stop fighting with it so much and the less you're fighting with it the higher your vibration raises the easier it is for you to let go and the easier it is for you to take that bounce all right so learning how to validate the attachment is exceptionally helpful when it comes to letting it go hey guys quick reminder if you have not yet subscribed to my YouTube channel or followed my Instagram page please make sure to do that I do love to have you guys also make sure to like this video all that good stuff it does help me out lay 1111 Lei I cannot stop thinking about sales coming from an online store I opened a year ago in hopes of leaving a corporate job yeah so that's an attachment Obviously good question so the big thing is distraction adding things in I like to think about focusing on obviously doing things that generate Revenue but when you're not in the job when you're not doing the thing then it's time for the mind to go elsewhere so and I know that that's what you're trying to do but a lot of times people want to try and strategize about their work when they're not at work and that can cause them to stay in that feedback loop where they're staying attached to the sales coming in because they're sitting there thinking about it thinking about it thinking about it um if you're doing anything like checking don't check the sales every all the time so don't be checking your if they come through your email only check your email like once a day don't check it multiple times a day when you're not working on your business the filling in with other things is going to be helpful so I talked about the power of productivity and what I talked about with that one was when you give yourself permission if your mind goes there it's okay we're g to taper off the idea but as much as possible I want you to start throwing in new things for you to focus on it can be very helpful to go and start new projects hang out with new people get something new going in your life because when you're able to focus on something different something new that will start to build momentum and there won't be as much space in the mind to fixate on the attachment all right so try to fill up your time a little bit when you're working on your business you can think about it that's fine get in the zone with it have fun with it but when you're not working on your business what's something that's going to hold my attention or hold my focus that's more fun and more exciting we want to get our mind kind of focused in that way the thoughts of the sales will still come up from time to time but when you notice that you've gone an hour or two hours or a day without thinking about it pat yourself on the back wow I went a whole two hours without thinking about that that's amazing I must be I must be letting go that's great that will help you accelerate the letting go of those thoughts Dy by Nature says cold turkey can lead to White knuckling through life and can lower vibration exactly exactly trying to do it all at once just set yourself up for feeling like you're not doing it right and it's also set you up in that space where you feel that sense of loss so profoundly oh it's never going to happen this isn't working out you'll feel it more if you try to do it all at once oh wow getting lost over here on Instagram all right caddy Maddy so grateful for your words of wisdom always thank you so much Alice says hello Andrea can you talk about how to manifest the body of our dream I can't ex change my beliefs about my body I think I need a lot of exercise in order to gain a Fit Body thank you so a couple things one is starting to appreciate your body and what you like about it okay A lot of times people are very critical of their physical appearance most people do this that they look in the mirror and they're picking out all the flaws and the things that they do not like and then the attention that's going on to the body is the things that I don't like and so that will cause the body to look less and less the way you want it to because your reality is going to reflect what you believe about your body okay so a lot of people are doing this they're very critical about their appearance and then their appearance becomes less of what they want it to be so instead what you want to do is you want to make it your mission every day to sit there and think about what you do like about your body picking out the best features that you have the things that are working in your favor the things that do look good on you and giving that more of an attention and more of a focus because your body will start to shift to reflect I like my body rather than these are the things I don't like about my body so that's very very important another thing that's very helpful is to think about yourself in your dream body just imagine it imagine it from head to toe what would it look like and then I want you to think about you know what would you be doing in that body how would you be acting in that body what kind of person would you be in that body what kind of thoughts would you be having how would you be talking imagining yourself in the outcome and then analyzing who is that person in that body how do they speak how do they talk what do they do how do they behave will get you into alignment with the perspective that creates that body right so just allowing yourself to lay down do it when you're in a good mood but lay down and really visualize being in the exact body that you would want and allow yourself to kind of visualize walking around talking to people living your life and as you're doing that analyze how is this person thinking talking acting behaving that's going to tell you what's got to be going on up here in order to create the desired result that you want and yes you are correct that you don't have to do anything in particular to get the things that you want that is a limiting belief you don't have to exercise a lot of people have success with it but it's not necessary okay so that's a good point KET lost the signal [Laughter] a Olga dear Andrea just wanted to say that your monthly downloads are awesome absolutely love them thank you Olga and thank you so much for being a member I do appreciate that and yes guys I did on YouTube I did pin a link to the membership website if you are interested in learning about becoming a member I've got over 300 manifesting resources that are on my membership website uh 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